Back in the late fall of 2012, we learned we would become parents of boy/girl twins. Exhilarating days for us. Magical. We were far from thinking about the advantages of downsizing back then…
Small House vs Big House: The Cage Match
We wanted to upsize! Soon we would come to appreciate why small houses win in the contest of small houses vs big houses.
Ever hectic days and weeks of preparing to double-size our family unfolded before us. So much to plan and prepare for, and nine months go by quickly when you procrastinate.
Granted, with twins, we didn’t get nine months. We didn’t get eight months. We got seven and a half.
During that autumn of anticipation four years ago, we evaluated our housing situation. We live in a smaller home that some would consider tiny by today’s standards: 1,400 finished square feet in a 1940’s one-story rambler.
A Conversation Between the Author and His Lovely Wife:
“We need at least three bedrooms,” said Mrs. Cubert.
“Well, what if we have parents staying with us? Shouldn’t we have four bedrooms?” I offered back.
“In that case, it has to have an attached bathroom for the master bedroom” she replied.
“Agree. So that way, the kids can have their very own dedicated bathroom” I said, imagining a world of convenience.
“You’re so smart, Honey,” I thought I heard her respond, but she often reminds me of my selective hearing…
And so it went. We had formed our wish list, and it effectively amounted to a McMansion of two stories, with a finished basement, four bedrooms, three bathrooms, and a grand kitchen (non-negotiable.)
Square footage? Well, certainly it’d have to be at least 75% more than what we had. After all, you’ve got to have space to hide all the new baby stuff, and then the kid stuff, and the parent’s stuff-they-don’t-let-the-kids-play-with stuff.
We found the perfect house, meeting all of these criteria, and within our current neighborhood, to boot. At the open house, the living room fireplace was burning and the smell of cinnamon rolls wafted from expertly placed Glade Plug-ins.
How Do You Live Comfortably in a Smaller Home?
Who knew Nike made carpet padding? Perfect for a sports viewing room. After our walk-through, we took our agent’s advice and wrote a heartfelt letter to the owners, sincerely asking them to choose us. Letters are powerful, by the way. Ours seemingly did the trick.
Oh, how badly our real estate agent wanted us to own that property. Her good friend the mortgage broker was equally gunning for this sale. Go figure.
The meeting between the four of us (me, wife, agent, broker) sure started fun, all full of rainbows and unicorns. We had an offer that was likely to be accepted, we just had to get the financing locked down.
Sadly, because yours truly had just months prior secured a loan on our first rental house, we didn’t qualify for this half-million-dollar dwelling. Some silly rule about rental income not counting towards our total income until we had a year of being a landlord under our belts. Dammit.
Disappointed, we continued to search and scour the market for something, anything that would fit our soon-to-be-doubling family. Within a few months, we had slowly backed out of the process altogether.
Nothing could match the perfectness of that first house. Plus, you can’t have babies delivered by the stork in the middle of closing, now can you? We hunkered down.
We figured, let’s just stay put. Maybe a year after the twins are born, we can start looking again. Fast forward three years and we’re still here in our reasonably-sized, fancy little house.
11 Reasons to Downsize into a Smaller Home
- Lower upfront cost. Shocker! The money you’re not putting into a down payment and mortgage payments can instead go towards paying off student loans, silly new car payments, or long-term investments (like stocks or real estate)
- Lower taxes and insurance. Novice home buyers tend to focus on the list price of the home, but fail to account for the sorta-hidden costs, such as higher property taxes, higher hazard insurance costs, and higher mortgage insurance.
- Lower maintenance and repair costs. Things break, and things wear out (plumbing services, mechanicals, etc.). On bigger houses, you can easily double your repair and up-keep budget. Replacing the roof on a 4,000-square-foot home can be double or triple the cost of a 1,500-square-foot home. You also can expect the effect of “they can afford it” -ness. E.g., when the plumber or electrician steps into a glitzy place, they might charge you for the “gold package” service. D’oh!
- Lower pressure to keep up with the Joneses. More a psychological aspect, but if you’re surrounded by McMansions, you might feel obligated to keep a shiny Lexus parked in the garage, or put a fancy pool in the backyard. If you don’t believe in this phenomenon, consider how marketing relies so heavily on coveting thy neighbor’s stuff.
- Lower cost to furnish. Fewer rooms mean fewer trips to Ikea (and fewer calories from Swedish Meatballs.)
- Lower cost to heat, cool, and power. Especially when you compare single-story homes with two stories and up. You can easily double the monthly utility bills when jumping from 1,500 to 4,000 square feet. OUCH.
- Trade-offs are nice. You can free up a few bucks to enjoy travel or other meaningful experiences. You can donate a little more to a favorite charity. The sky is the limit, once you pay off your debts first, of course!
- Less house to clean and maintain = More time to play with toddler blocks and write blog posts (and THEN do dishes, take out the garbage, etc.)
- Less house to pay for = Less pressure to work crazy hours and play politics to rise in the ranks to afford your mortgage
- Smaller yard to maintain.
- Fewer windows to wash. If you’re like us and do this every three years or so, let me know so I won’t feel like such a slouch.
The Family Bonding Factor
- A smaller home helps strengthen family bonds. Because there’s no place to escape! But seriously, families are under enough duress with all the activities and technology clamoring for our attention. At least we can all text, browse, and play solitaire in the same living room, right?
- A smaller home means less space to fill with crap. The less we focus on things, the more we are free to focus on relationships and experiences.
- With baby twins, a single-story house has been GOLDEN. I could not imagine running up and down stairs, to and from the nursery. With one baby, sure. With twins, whole different ballgame. And I like stairs. Take them all the time at the office. But at home, with demanding little ones, stairs are the pits.
- Better parties! It’s fun to cram all your friends into a small space and let the evening unfold. Less real estate to damage as well…
Downsizing Is Not Always the Answer
Bigger houses have some advantages, in fairness:
- More room for a mega-large family! If you have a lot of kids (4+), or a combined family.
- Potential for some huge investment returns. If you were smart enough and wealthy enough to purchase a blue-chip property at rock-bottom prices soon after the mortgage-finance crisis of 2008, yields could be super impressive. A $1 million house might fetch $1.8 million today. This applies only if you plan to sell at the market peak and find somewhere else to live.
- More room to work from home. I often wonder what it’d be like to have a nice, dedicated workspace for the days I work from home, or for blogging and working on the budget. The dining room table isn’t so bad though, and I do get to keep an eye on the kids from this perch!
One thing is for sure. At some point, we’ll have to figure out an arrangement for the twins before they reach age 10 or so. By then, I’ll be spending a lot of my time on smaller home house projects, including adding a third bedroom. Another advantage of early retirement is that it can free you up to take on renovations you’d otherwise have to pay a contractor for.
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An entertaining read! It’s fun to look back on the ‘lemons’ life gives you (like not getting THE PERFECT HOUSE), and realizing that what you really got was a chance to be creative and make the best darn lemon meringue pie, or lemon curd, or lemonade, or lemon tart…and that you’re much better off anyway. Silver linings!
Thanks, Runnermh! Silver linings are everywhere you look, if you look hard enough. See my post on cold showers, for example. ????
Mustard Seed Money says
It sounds like you got the perfect house for you in the end. I think I read the other day that housing today is 1,000 square feet bigger than it was in the 1970s. Isn’t it amazing to think our parents grew up in these tiny houses but some people think we could “never” raise our children in something so small.
Agree! And many of those families had four, five, or more children. As a result of that “sacrifice” the parents could afford to retire and ultimately pass on sizable estates.
One more benefit of a small house….less to clean! We moved to a small condo less than half the size of our previous house that required hired help to clean. Now, cleaning our ONE floor smaller abode is a breeze, freeing up more time to have fun!
Professor Kate says
We’ve been living in a small 3 bedroom ranch since 1985. We would have liked to move to a larger home on a quieter street with bigger closets, but God/the Universe/Whomever did not put that in our life. So we are staying in our easy-to-clean, easy-to-maintain, soon-to-be-paid-for abode. Some of our most cherished memories are of the 4 of us hanging out in the living room together, watching a TV show or just being in the same room. So while I wish I had more room, I can see the benefits of a small house. Plus, the size of the house made me think twice before buying lots of crap… it has also encouraged me to keep on top of closets, etc., and donate to charity when appropriate.
That’s wonderful, Kate! The soon-to-be-paid for aspect is so sweet. Please splurge on a bottle of champagne to celebrate when you do pay it off for good. The memories are so important, and easier to make when you are made to “squeeze” into a smaller space. Smaller by today’s out-sized standards, of course…
Thank you for this post! I’m 24 wks with twins myself and we are going through this journey.
We have an 1100 sq ft 3 bed 2 bath house, with a full-time 3 year old and a part-time 9 year old already. When I found out we were having twins, I freaked out and started looking out houses, but Portland’s market is so crazy right now. I finally realized- I can barely get off the couch some days. No way am I packing up this house to sell and move! Also babies (even twins!) don’t need much space for the first year, and it will be a lot easier to keep up with cleaning and maintenance on a small house.
So we’ve decided not to make any housing decisions for a year. It’s a big relief.
abandoned cubicle says
Good for you, Holly! I can only imagine what it’s like with four kids. We figured two (our twins) to be plenty! But then, we often have the grandparents staying with us for weeks at a time, and we make it work. Our market is crazy as well here in Minneapolis. Best to you next year in your decision to stay or find a bigger home. With four kids, I’d certainly think you could justify a little bit more square footage. On the flip side, that small house is a good incentive to enjoy the great outdoors, right?
“If you’re like us and do this every three years or so, let me know so I won’t feel like such a slouch.” – We bought our house about 3 years back, and still haven’t washed the windows.
And the guest bedroom has terrible wallpaper that I want to remove some day, but I just close the door and ignore that room.
We spent half a million dollars on a smaller house (around 1700 sq ft) in our neighborhood. I still don’t get to most of the rooms in this house every day.
I am trying to read through your posts – But not having a “next post” button (at least, i didn’t see one!) is making it slightly hard. I won’t give up though!
Oh no! I will take a look at my site navigation now. Seems I need to do some renovations in my virtual world – another reason that window cleaning just has to wait. 🙂
Yes yes! Less cleaning! Great point there, SJB. We find it hard enough to clean our smallish space these days.
In my head, I went Bingo! Bingo! Bingo! ….and so on …
Funny that you mention the Ikea meatballs. I have a friend who makes a run to Ikea to just get the meatballs! Doesn’t even set foot in the main store. Straight to the cafeteria and out. Helps that he lives right off Cedar, 5 mins away from the store.