
Spending can be too easy sometimes.
You don’t have to fall victim to the ever-present shadow of marketing and advertising.
I’m conjuring up today’s theme after picking up on some of the desirable material things that other people have. Temptation is a beast. Fortunately, after a few years of exercising some ever-stronger frugality muscles, I think I have a solid defense.
How to Be Frugal With Winter Sports
Just this past Saturday, we visited a regional park to enjoy their winter lodge, complete with a kids’ play area, tables to eat at, a fireplace, and views of snowy nature just outside. We figured a packed picnic lunch would make for a nice family outing.
So there we were, saving money, enjoying our lunch after a trip to the library no less (double frugal bonus) when a bunch of skiers popped in.
Me: “I think it’d be fun to get skis for the family. Be a fun way to get us out of the house in the wintertime.”
Mrs. C: “You remember how fast kids grow, right? This is why we’re not doing hockey.”
Me: “Right. We could rent, I guess?”
Mrs. C: “That’d be better. Now stop thinking about how to spend money and enjoy your lunch!”
Me: “Yeah. I bet there’s a trade-in program out there too for this kind of stuff.”
So right there, we have a couple of options: Buy, rent, or buy and replace as the kids grow. The cost of ski equipment ain’t cheap. It’d probably run us close to a grand to do it with any semblance of quality for a family of four.
Before I met my lovely wife (incidentally, before I had a clue), I plopped over a grand for my very own downhill ski equipment. Haven’t been on the slopes since the kids were born. But who knows, maybe I’ll get back out there again…
With that lesson in mind, I’m thinking we’ll probably rent, assuming we pick up cross-country skiing as a family. Or who knows, we might opt to try snowshoeing instead? Here in Minnesota, there’s no shortage of bitterly cold days to enjoy these kinds of activities. Remember that Super Bowl a few weeks back? Friggin’ -5F low that day.

3 Ways to Save Money on the Finer Things in Life
1.) Save Money on Media
I’m sort of double-dipping earlier posts on some of these items. Sue me. I’m tired and I need a vacation to think of some new blog topics.
At any rate, in my humble, yet all-knowing opinion, it’s important to your bottom line to consider alternatives to purchasing things like books, music, and news. I used to enjoy buying (and eventually reading) my books.
When they’re brand-new, books give off a fine wood-pulp-meets-chemical smell that I get to appreciate as the first reader. Mmmm…. New book smell…
Music? Well, as much as I used to love getting new CDs, I still remember how much a pain in the a$$ it was to get the dang thing out of the cellophane wrapper. Half the time I’d end up cracking the jewel case. Friggin’… Piece of…
Nowadays, I’m happy to be done with wastefully collecting CDs instead of enjoying Pandora and gasp! FM RADIO.
Having grown up in a household that always got the daily paper, I started with a similar habit right out of college. I had to keep up with all the murder, mayhem, and business drama going on. And that was just the Sports section.
At some point in later years (still 20s – I’m not that far gone), I started reading the News and Business sections and came away feeling pretty disturbed about the world outside. That, and I was put off by seriously inky fingers.
Nowadays I get all the news I need from YouTube, courtesy of Steven Colbert and John Oliver. Oh, and I check my phone way too much for headlines on the Washington Post. No more inky fingers, and no more feeling guilty about not finishing a pile of news and tossing gobs of circulars.
2.) Travel on the Cheap
I have some co-workers that seem to have a nervous twitch if they haven’t booked a flight to some exotic location that requires a minimum 8-hour flight. What gets me is how they have these urges despite having one or more kids still in diapers. Jesus. God help me (and by the way, if you’re still there, there’s a sweet car floating your way!)
Having traveled with twin infants, I can attest to the gauntlet that is air travel. Thankfully, it gets easier as kids grow up and get a little more self-sufficient. Nevertheless, travel is expensive.
Whether or not you use points. The Cubert family (of course!) uses points each year to visit grandparents in Nevada. This is a three-hour direct flight that feels just about the ceiling of our “Travel with little kids” limits.
I mentioned this in a post last week, but it sure is nice to have a place to stay and childcare for the kids, so mom and dad can have some “us” time. The same is true when we hit the road in the summertime to visit my parents in Michigan. There’s room for the kids and spoilerific, loving childcare. And bonus, the road trip requires zero points.
The point of all this is that travel is great, but it doesn’t have to be an annual or semi-annual affair to Bora Bora. There are sweet deals to be had on airfare, and if you’re savvy with points you can game the system. But there are “hidden” costs to consider (meals, activities, baggage fees, ground transport, etc.)
3.) Going Out on the Town, or Game Night?
Double dates, happy hours, and hitting the town always seem to top everyone’s list when it comes to the weekend. Well, I’m here to tell you that a good old-fashioned Game Night is where the action is at. Especially in cold states like Minnesota.
Just invite your friends over to make THEM go out in the cold! But don’t worry. They’ll appreciate not having to hop from bar to bar or bar to restaurant, or restaurant to bar, in 10 below wind chills.
The lesson here isn’t meant to zero in on just a few excessively overwrought frugal nuggets. These are simply examples that you can springboard from, to other substitutes.
Think about it when you’re dining out: Do you need the filet mignon when the burger is pretty good? Do you need a new Tesla Model S, when you could ride your bike and save the planet? (Oh, but now I would KILL for my very own glossy black Model S!!!)
Some things you just can’t make substitutes for: You need decent, durable clothes. You’ve got to have healthy, organic whole foods (especially when you live in a state with a two-month growing season.) Just don’t get too caught up in what your neighbors or friends are doing. Simple as that.
This past summer I contemplated an in-the-ground swimming pool, inspired by our neighbor’s recent installation. Then I remembered we live in Frozen Tundra MINNESOTA. That’s a pretty fat expense for a two-month growing season.
4.) Minimalism: The Centerpiece of Financial Independence
You simply spend less money so you can invest it, and let those dollars grow via compounding interest. Along the way, you make several sacrifices to grow your savings. The trick is two-fold. One: Avoid keeping up with the Joneses. And two: occasionally appreciate the finer things in life, but with a heavy dose of frugality.
You’d think that once you’ve read your Mr. Money Mustache twice through, you’d have fully converted to full-time stoicism on two wheels. You know, sell the car, move next door to work, hitchhike to Costco as needed. Never leave the house unless it’s to drop the kid off at school or for a reader meet-up…
But seriously, Pete makes incredibly useful points, in every article. Essentially, it’s incredibly fleeting to get caught up in buying useless crap to fulfill yourself.
Part of what got me into trouble in my 20s and 30s was an over-appreciation for the finer things in life. I bought my first (and only) $1,000 watch, just a few weeks before getting laid off. That was not cool.
I’d go out for lunch at the bar and grill a couple of times a week (on days I didn’t buy lunch in the office cafeteria). My co-worker and friend called these “Hollywood lunches.” And he should know, he once worked in Hollywood.
I’d go to the mall seemingly every other weekend to shop around and buy nice clothes. Brand names that never go on sale. Can’t have enough Polo shirts and Dockers, right?
I blame part of this on the stodgy workplace dress code at that time. The Mad Men code required dress shirts and ties. My much smarter colleague from Tinsel-town would simply wear his hiking apparel, with a knit tie to meet the code. He looked like a tent attending the governor’s ball.
One of the nice things about being a tech support guy, is you get first dibs on decommissioned PCs from the work. Once a PC was written off the books, we could bring it home for personal use. So even though I still had a car payment, student loans, and a Hollywood lunch addiction, I avoided a major expense on my computer.
A More Frugal Cubert
These days, I avoid shopping malls like the plague. Not a big fan. I live in the town where the Mall of America resides, drawing in millions of shoppers year after year. Many from overseas, just to SHOP. I’ll admit, we occasionally take the kids there to enjoy Nickelodeon Universe, but typically on Grandma and Grandpa’s dime. God, we’re cheap.
I’m no longer into fancy watches or clothes either. My mainstays are Marshalls and the Banana Republic outlet. The latter’s stuff is often pretty reasonably priced and quality-made. And bonus, Banana Republic’s threads fit skinny guys (like me) well.
At lunchtime, you won’t find me at the local bar and grill anymore. Nope. You’ll find me at my cube tucking into reheated leftovers. If I’m hitting the cafeteria once every other week, it’s typically to get an oversized cup of chili (dense in calories and only three bucks.) Hollywood lunches, get behind me!
My penchant for gadgetry has diminished as well. I keep an ancient laptop in service — and it somehow allows me to push out one post a week (most weeks!) My iPhone is an iteration 6. Though I still occasionally get wistful, longing for a 55″ TV for when the kids are old enough to appreciate Star Wars.
Frugal Money Saving Opportunities Can Be Found Everywhere
So now you’re wondering, “What the heck does Cubert consider a ‘finer thing’??” When it comes down to it, the finer things in life are not high-dollar, fatFIRE luxuries. Far from it. The finer things are durable, and often immaterial things. Not stuff you plunk down a lot of money to wear out and throw away like Kleenex. Think “Minimalism”!
For example, with clothes, I’ve kept the same three suits in circulation for ages. I do try my darnedest to keep in shape, to avoid any further tailoring. (Frigging co-worker suck-up doughnuts!)
I keep my shoes in shoe trees and buff and polish them by hand a couple of times a year. If a heel wears out, I get the heel replaced at the shoe repair shop (they still exist!)
I’ll indulge in getting dress shirts from Marshall’s tailored since they fit like parachutes off the shelf. Unless you’re carrying a big belly, you need to bring in the sides, or you risk looking like a walking airbag.
With food, sure I’m eating leftovers, but it’s based on whole foods, prepared at home by chef de cuisine, Mrs. Cubert. We will indulge in the fabulous local restaurant scene here in Minneapolis, but never more than once a week.
As hard as my lovely wife works in the kitchen all week long, the reward of enjoying a nice meal at a nice restaurant is an indulgence well worth it. Don’t argue with me on that. I will win.
When it comes to travel, we have limited options. Mainly because we’re still working and also because the kiddos are in school. Still, we manage to fly off to Nevada once a year using points to stay at the in-laws. We’ll take a couple of road trips to visit grandparents in Michigan or family in Nebraska.
When travel becomes a “finer thing” is when the Mrs. and I jet off for a few days, while the grandparents hang back to watch the kids. We’ll probably drop upwards of $1,000 for the privilege, but we manage to fly ourselves out, and our in-laws in, using credit card miles. Once a year? Totally within the budget.
Sip some champagne and dip into that caviar. We’ve got finer things to serve up.
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Hi Cubert, I didn’t know you were personal friends with Erik. I just know him from his blog of course. Nice that you have someone to interact with face to face on the subject. Good choice on skipping the pool. Tom
We’re lucky to live pretty close by — Minneapolis is a great city, brings great people together! Our next trick is to plan a frugal barbecue this summer, stringing together a series of kiddie pools heated by DIY solar panel technology. Should make for a neat blog post.
That was quite the night, I really enjoyed it.
We are both pretty goofy – I sure laughed a lot!
Thanks for having us again!
Dude. That was four certifiable goofballs, aided and abetted by some not-too-shabby margs. So says the bartender, anyhow…
Thanks for teaching us the ropes on doubles-cribbage. I am still quite impressed by your and Gwen’s ability to count up those points. – Signed, senor slowpoke. 🙂
Downhill skiing was our family activity during the winter, with all three kids (my son was on skis at 2). We got lucky we were able to pass down most of the equipment between kids, otherwise there was a program where you could get 50% back within 2 years with a purchase of a new set.
It was great! Even if we spent more than we should have, we have wonderful memories:) It’s priceless.
Great point, Caroline. Those memories are so important at the end of the day. I think I can picture our family doing some skiing – maybe not every single week, but certainly a half dozen times during the winter months. It’s a balance, but with tricks like trade ins, Craigslist, etc. you can make it work.
Well if you did get a pool, you could just leave the water in and use it for a mini skating rink in the winter 😉 Nice reminder of all the available things that can get us by without spending money on extras. We still haven’t worked up enough courage to attempt air travel with our toddler yet!
HEY! GREAT IDEAR! We’re lucky though, in that we have a nearby park with a well-groomed rink.
Air travel with a toddler is not as bad as you’d think, UNLESS you get major delays. Then, you’re hating life. Be sure to avoid connecting flights with the little ones in tow!
Go with snowshoeing, way cheaper and builds more character since it sucks sometimes 🙂
Oh that’s choice. The stoic approach to winter sports! That’s actually how I feel about running in the winter. I’ve mostly given it up after too many near slip and falls on icy sidewalks.
When we moved from India to US, I traveled alone with my son, then about 5. He helped me with the bags and everything, and he even slept the entire way from London to Boston. I haven’t traveled more than a 3-4 hours with him after that nightmare.
I can’t imagine flying with two small kids, even if there are two adults to take care of them.
Wow – you have a wonderful son, Busy Mom! Sleeping the entire journey across an ocean is no small fete! Don’t feel too bad for us. Our kiddos are real champs with this. No ear popping issues, and no tantrums to report. Yet…
He stayed awake Bangalore to London, and had only three hours of sleep that night before we left, so was exhausted.
But his ears hurt all 4 times), he was frustrated he had to sit in one place. He still hates being in a plane.
We took a two week long road trip last year. He had no problem sitting in the car the entire journey. The flight back from San Francisco to Boston – he hated that.
Man. That is a LOT of travel. You learn quickly how to prepare and adjust for those situations though, don’t you? 🙂
I don’t think I’ve ever bought a CD. I’ve always been happy with the FM radio (so never has a desire for paid satellite radio, either). I think I did win a CD once, but I don’t think I ever listened to it.
Good man, Joe. My current CD collection of over 100 resides safely in a large wallet, with all the jewel cases long gone. A sad relic – Can’t remember the last time I pulled anything to listen to. Course it’d help if we had a CD player in the house (not counting our Wii or BluRay player.)
Does water instead of coca-cola count? Or cutting the cord versus your tv subscription?
It sure does! But a nice rum and coke sure hits the spot sometimes. 🙂
I’m dying to know what games you played. We recently have been playing Tsuro and Race for the Gallaxy.
Doubles cribbage! 🙂
Snowshoes!! They’re the best (frugal) wintertime activity. Once you’ve bought the snowshoes, the only cost is the gas to get to the trail. The same could go for cross country skiing as well, but downhill comes with a TON of additional costs beyond just the skis and equipment themselves.
I’m thinking that way too! I’ve never done it before, but it looks like a lot of fun. And I’m betting the kids can grow with a single pair?
I would expect so at least for some amount of time. I think we’ll probably buy some for the kiddo next winter, since it’s already almost March (but we do own pairs for each of us already). Mrs. Adventure Rich is the one to ask about the details – she’s the one who got me thinking we didn’t have to wait until he’s much older!
With downhill skiing it’s the lift ticket prices that will get you!
We like our FM radio also. We bought a Bose, which I thought was overpriced at the time. We also bought the stand which I though was stupidly overpriced, but it enables us to fit the radio under a cabinet. I admit now that I love both. So much so that Mr. G removed them yesterday and patched up the holes. Otherwise we’d have to leave the stand for whoever buys our home (if it’s attached for showings it has to stay).
Oh you know it. Those lift tickets are the killer. Still, I reckon we’ll try a handful of downhill adventures when the kids get a little older. Avoiding weekends as much as possible, when the traffic is NUTS on the slopes.
I’m actually looking into a BOSE or SONOS system for our television hookup. But it’ll be a while, and likely after achieving FI.
Snowshoeing sounds like a great frugal alternative to skis. My kids aren’t big enough for their own yet but we took one kid on our back once and loved it! Can’t wait to try it with our kids. It seems less injury prone too!
Hi DYD! I’ve heard mixed reviews about snowshoeing, but I’m anxious to try it. Really appreciate your endorsement – now to get the Mrs. on-board!